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If there is any tradition in Ireland that is common among Irish families it would be that of a burial of a loved one. Although it’s a sad occasion our spiritual & religious beliefs helps us get through a mournful time.
A Typical Irish Wake House
There are many ideas on the origin of the Irish wake for example one such myth is that it originated as a result of the Irish fondness for drinking stout which used to be drunk from pewter mugs and this unfortunately had the side effect of causing lead poisoning. The symptoms of this illness was a catatonic state (where the victim appeared to be dead) but would recover a few hours later so friends would watch over the ‘corpse’ to see if they would eventually awaken. We much prefer the belief that it originated with the Celts. The Celts believed that when a person died they were moving on to a better one in the afterlife and that this was a cause to celebrate.
To-day wakes are held pretty much as they always have been. The wake will traditionally be held in the home of the deceased or at the home of a close relative; this is known as the wake house. A room will be prepared for the deceased, in the past it would have been a parlour but more often these days a bedroom is used.
After death a window is opened to allow the spirit of the deceased to leave the house, no-one must stand or block the path to the window as this may prevent the spirit from leaving and will bring misfortune to the person who blocks the route. After two hours the window should be closed as this will prevent the spirit from re-entering.
The body is washed and dressed; in times gone by they would have been clothed in white. If the deceased was a male he would have been freshly shaved. This is known as being ‘laid out’. A rosary is then wrapped around the hands and a cross placed around the neck depending on the religion of the deceased. Candles are placed at the head and foot of the coffin and remain lit while the deceased is still present in the house. Family members or close friends will stay with the deceased at all times taking it in shifts to watch over the departed. All clocks in the house will be stopped at the time the person died and all mirrors will be covered or turned to face the wall as a mark of respect. Also, traditionally all the curtains will be closed.
In earlier times ‘keening’ would have taken place. This is when the women family members would cry and wail over the deceased. This took place after the body had been laid out, if the women started ‘keening’ before the body was ‘laid-out’ it would invoke evil spirits. ‘Keening’ would have carried on for some time. One wonders if this has some bearing in the legend of the banshee. To-day ‘keening’ has faded out of Irish funerals.
Although death is a sad occasion a traditional wake is seldom solemn. Friends and family alike gather and share memories and funny stories about the deceased. Food and drink is always present and although the church tried to ban alcohol from wakes it was unsuccessful. You can always spot a wake house as the men tend to congregate outside if the weather is good. The women will be in the kitchen making tea, sandwiches and washing the dishes. Friends and neighbours will bring a cake or a plate of sandwiches to help out as wake houses do tend to get very busy with a constant stream of visitors.
The visitors will on entering the house be met by a close family member when they have offered their condolences they are then taken into the room where the deceased is. They will then go to the coffin and stand for a few minutes paying their respects or saying a prayer. They will then be taken into the other room and offered refreshments.
Depending on religion the rosary is said twice a day with everyone in the house present to say the responses. There is a special rosary for the dead and it is traditionally said aroundmidnightbefore the visitors leave.
THE FUNERAL PROCESSION
A wake can last for a few days to allow people to come from afar to pay their respects and to say good-bye. It will end when the body is taken out of the house for the last time and moved to the local Church. On the day of the funeral the coffin is carried by 6 males, usually family or very close friends. A Hearse leads the procession to the Church with family & friends following behind the males carrying the coffin.
The funeral mass is usually in duration of 45 minutes with priest and loved ones speaking about achievement made by the departed. Again, the coffin is carried by family & friends to the cemetery. If the procession is to pass the house of the departed it will stop as a mark of respect.
People who are not part of the funeral celebration will stop in the street or road allowing the procession to pass ahead as a sign of respect for the deceased.